Jodie Mason, Marketing Coordinator and Alison Rickwood, Social Worker, will be doing a pre-marathon practice run at the beginning of May across Avon Beach between 16-18 miles. If you are interested in coming along for support and for a bbq afterwards on the beach, email alison.rickwood@capstonefostercare.co.uk or jodie.mason@capstonefostercare.co.uk for more information.

Ali Rickwood says:

As it is my 40th year on this planet; I wanted to do something special to celebrate; why not complete my first marathon!! And run it somewhere special!

When I read about Street Child, I knew that I had found something special. I was inspired by the work of Street Child and wanted to support them by raising money as part of my participation in the Sierra Leone Marathon 2018. The money raised on my page will go towards providing a child with education, school uniform as well as training teachers. For example, a donation of £30 is enough to send a child to school for a year, or a £50 donation can supply a whole school with their teaching resources for a year.

Please help us help them by giving whatever you can:

Ali’s page

Jodie’s page

A massive Thank you to Capstone for supporting me to do this. Keep up to date with my training and photos on my Just Giving page and the Capstone website with my weekly blogs!.

If any of you have some ideas about how I can raise more money before I head out to Sierra Leone, that would be amazing, please do email or call me – I would welcome any support!!

I look forward to hearing from you 😊”

Check out Alison’s 5 minutes of fame on Salisbury TV:


Our wonderful foster carer Lynne Blencowe has written a guest blog for International Day of Happiness.

Happiness: a mental or emotional state of well-being which can be defined by, among others, positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.

As a foster carer I usually experience many different emotions throughout the day, but no matter what the day has brought, I always like to end it on a positive note with the beautiful children who are part of our Chosen Family.

When I put the children to bed I always get them to say something specific and wonderful about themselves that has happened, or how they feel about themselves that day. This can be anything including, “I am really proud of myself as I got all of my spellings right”, “I am precious to you”, “I am beautiful and have beautiful skin.” I then tell them 5 positive things about themselves or what they have done that day. These might be, “I really loved that cup of coffee you made for me today – it was just what I wanted” or “Thank you for reading to me so beautifully today – I loved the expression you used – you are a great reader” or “You made me really laugh today when you told me that funny story of what happened at school”

To find 5 positive things to say to a child or young person when everything is going well is easy to do. What’s harder is finding those things when times are tough – but often that is when it is most important and meaningful. For me, I find it can be extremely useful in the prevention of Blocked Care which Dan Hughes and Jonathan Baylin describe in their book, “Brain based parenting” as:

Blocked Care (the stressed-out survival-based brain mode). Blocked care’ describes ‘how stress can suppress a well-meaning parent’s capacity to sustain loving feelings and empathy towards his or her child’. It stems from a need for self-protection and defensiveness and fosters a reactive style of parenting that is narrowly focussed on the immediate behaviour and most negative aspects of the child. In blocked care there is a tendency to overreact to a child’s nonverbal communication; nonverbal communications are processed faster than verbal communications and therefore blocks verbal communication. Blocked care has a tendency to be judgemental

Some young people, especially teenagers, in my experience, find it very difficult to accept praise, so on occasions I have shouted messages through the bedroom door at night – “By the way – I loved the way you did your hair in that up-do style” and I have received the response, “**** **”” but a few days later I have been asked, “Did you really like my hair the other day?” So – they are always listening and taking in what you say – even if they pretend not to!

If at all possible, the only way for me to end each and every day, particularly on the International Day of Happiness, is with positive and pleasant emotions both for myself and the children I love. Maybe give it a try?

Happy International Day of Happiness.


We said goodbye to Deb L on Friday. Deb’s said “The last 18 months at Capstone have been great. During my time at Capstone I have met some amazing, caring staff members and fabulous carers.

Capstone staff genuinely care which is the key to finding caring and compassionate foster carers. I personally will miss all of my colleagues especially my team:

  • Ally who was my right hand
  • Debi who loves my tea
  • Manisha who is the private investigator of the office
  • Emma who says it as it is
  • Sunjay high up in the running for best dressed
  • Kelly and her excitable, fun personality!
  • James who eats everything in sight
  • Jodie best new comer
  • Thank you to Sara and Alison for giving me the opportunity to join the Capstone Family.

Capstone Midlands add smiles and laughter to the office, even throughout the hard times of the fostering industry. The staff maintain professionalism and great work ethics at all times. Carers, keep up the inspiring work that you do making a difference and changing lives.

As one chapter closes another one opens.

Farewell…

 

 


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