Capstone North recently held a Capstone Carers Catch Up at Frankie and Benny’s in Blackburn.

We had a lovely mix of carers join us on the day including, a young couple, Kim and Pete who started fostering in their 20’s, Janet and Richard Llewellyn who have just been approved, a single male carer, Chris, who transferred to Capstone, and Mariam and Nazir Patel who are just a few weeks into their first fostering placement with us. The mix of carers shows us that becoming a foster carer isn’t a ‘one size fits all’ model.

Linked by the children they foster, Kim and Pete look after the brother of a child looked after by Chris. The support between them highlights exactly what it’s like to be a part of the Capstone family. The friendships made at Capstone through events, training and catch ups enable us all to support each other. For new carers and even those thinking of fostering, these get-togethers are important to settle any fears about fostering!

Social worker Adam D and Recruitment Co-ordinator Adam B enjoyed hearing all of the insightful, flowing conversations and positive honest stories about the carers’ fostering experiences and Capstone.
If you’re interested in becoming a foster carer, or want to find out more information then please do not hesitate to get in touch. Check out our events page to find out when the next meet ups are happening or simply pick up the phone to talk to one of our friendly members of staff.


Community Psychiatric Nurse, Team Leader – Georgina Cadby-Fisher, who has been working in mental health for 3 years has written an advice piece on how to spot the signs and provide support to somebody who is self-harming.

Georgina Cadby Fisher

What is self-harm?

So what do we mean by Self-harm? Self-harm is when you hurt yourself as a way of dealing with very difficult feelings, painful memories or overwhelming situations and experiences that feel out of control. It can be the thing people turn to when they feel they have no other option.

Signs of potential self-harm:

There are not always obvious signs that somebody close to you may have begun self harming. But there are some signs you can look out for:

  • Unexplained cuts, bruises or burns
  • Wearing more clothing than usual to cover any evidence of self harm
  • Changes in eating or becoming secretive/obsessive about eating
  • Unusual weight loss or weight gain

So why do people self-harm?

There are many reasons people self-harm, such as being bullied, stress, bereavement, experiencing a form of abuse whether that’s sexual, physical or emotional.

  • If people are angry, self-harming can be a form of release of pent up anger or emotion
  • Self-harm can be a form of control for people if they feel they have no control over other aspects of their life
  • It can be for psychological reasons such as hearing voices that tell them to do it

Advice for people living with somebody that self-harms

Living with somebody or watching people close to you self harm can be difficult and distressing but there are things you can do to help:


Hayley Bancroft and Jo Kelly have been holding a three week girls group to promote positive self-esteem, body image and healthy relationships.

The aims of each session changed slightly to suit the needs of the young people that attended. 4 young girls have attended each week.

The weeks was broken down as follows:
Week 1- Ice Breakers, work around Hayley getting to know them, Self-esteem, your own personal shield. The things that were important to help them feel safe.
Week 2- Their home environment and what people contribute positively around them towards their self-esteem.
Week 3- What you should wear on a date, they also made pizza and cakes as a treat and also decided to do make overs.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

One of the young people T said ‘It’s been better than I thought it would be’ another young person ‘ asked can we meet every week?’

Hayley and Jo said ‘ it was a great success and it was nice to see the young people interacting positively with each other’

The group was a success and the young people have decided to meet every 8 weeks. Capstone North will be also looking at holding a boys group and then also a mixed young people group


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